Ms. Nikki Says...The 42% Part 2 and 3

I’m soooo sorry for the delay folks, but Ms. Nikki has been a little busy. BUT FEAR NOT! I’m back and in effect so here we go. Also I’m going to combine parts 2 and 3 because I’m behind and also because they go hand in hand…Hope you enjoy!

The 42% Part 2: Adjusting the image off your I.B.M. (Ideal Black Man)

In the ABC special they used a successful African American prosecuting attorney named Nicole Marshawn. She is 31 years old and has never been married. The first time I watched this special she instantly reminded me of Sanaa Lathan’s character in the movie “Something New.” In the movie Sanaa’s character’s name was Kenya and she was a successful accountant who wanted more than anything to find her I.B.M. She had the attributes she wanted in her I.B.M. listed and at the top of her list were the he was just as educated and just as wealthy as she was. All of her friends were just as successful and they all wanted the same things Kenya did.

Ms. Nikki Says…

I think once a woman especially a black woman reaches a certain level of success the chances of you meeting a black man on your level are slim to none. I hate to burst your bubble ladies, but the truth hurts sometimes! Men with that level of success tend to have huge egos and want a woman who will tend to them and their needs 24/7 and if you are like Nicole and you have a demanding job that pretty much leaves little to no time for a man of your caliber. So here is the solution. Adjust your outlook on a good man. I’m not saying compromise your standards. I’m telling you to adjust them. Because at the end of the day aside from physical features you should just want a man who treats you like platinum! A man that works at the post office can treat you just as well if not better than a man with 50 million degrees and lots of money. Even in the movie Kenya’s friend was a judge and she ended up engaged to a cook…not a chef but a cook! He couldn’t have made more than $40,000 a year, but he made her happy. Be realistic about your aspirations and standards when it comes to looking for a man. Because dreams don’t keep you warm at night, but a good man will!

The 42% Part 3…Letting go of Limitations Ok so I previously discussed adjusting your view of your I.B.M., But what if that doesn’t work? What if you just can't find a black man that treats you the way you think you ought to be treated??

Ms. Nikki Says….

Sometimes you have got to let go of the dream of your I.B.M and just not discriminate. What do I mean you ask? I mean don’t just think because you’re black you have to be with a black man. That is far from the truth. This is the 21st century and interracial marriage is very real! Despite what you might believe white men CAN jump and can be just as endowed as a black man!

Alright that's all folk's....tune in next week for a BRAND NEW topic! I know you're going to love it!! Smooches!!!

~Ms. Nikki~